From temporary annoyances to full-blown rage, we’ve all felt anger. It’s a natural part of being human. Anger is a biological response that’s integral to our survival – our body’s way of responding to threats. Anger is, therefore, normal and healthy. But, uncontrollable rage leads to problems – in personal relationships, work, and life overall. Just because you’ve always had a short temper doesn’t mean you can’t change. It’s far easier to manage your anger than trying to eliminate it altogether. The key lies in first understanding what can set you off. The ability to see it coming can help you redirect the chaos.
Work Out
When you start sensing irritation simmering in your body, take a breather and stop whatever you’re doing. Go for a walk, a run, or move your body in other ways. Expending all that restless energy can help calm your down and prevent an explosion.
Deep Breathing
For those who can recognize stressors and triggers, deep breathing is an excellent way to restore calm. Inhale and exhale deeply from the diaphragm, focusing on each breath. Do this until you feel the anger subside.
Take a Cold Shower
Studies show that cold water immersion alleviates stress. The cold water helps redirect the tension, making your body focus solely on feeling cold.
Change The Scenery
Our immediate surroundings can be one of the leading causes of annoyances or fury. Familiar settings remind us of people and things that make us feel misunderstood or “trapped.” Take some personal time each day and distance yourself from familiar surroundings. Find a quiet corner and sip some tea. Step outside for a breather. Personal time is rejuvenating, making you feel better prepared to handle the demands of everyday life.
Consider Timing
Do you tend to lose your cool at specific times in a day? Certain hours in a day can bring out the best or worst in us. If important discussions happen when you’re tired and cranky (early morning, late nights), try changing when you can have these chats. Choosing the right time can make all the difference between meaningful chats and full-blown arguments. There are no quick fixes to managing anger. Learn to recognize patterns so that you can anticipate and plan around them. Additionally, consider lifestyle changes that help you cope better. Practice mindfulness, meditate and go easy on things like caffeine that might make you feel more on edge.